He put on his list to Santa Claus ... an ironing board

We order. At the nursery and kindergarten, boys play with kitchens and girls with garages. This is normal . At this age, they imitate their parents - both - in everyday tasks. It is by growing up , by becoming aware of their gender, that our children are gradually moving towards games and "sexuous" toys in order to build their identity .

So why censor them on his Christmas gift? Especially since there are men who iron and cook. Finally, if it is feared that a boy will become too "girl" in his games, you must know that in reality he does not play the same way with the so-called "feminine" toys , he uses a stroller not to take care of the baby but as a means of transport!

And then, no tongue : playing with girl games does not reach her future "manhood . " The choice hetero and homo is absolutely not determined by toys, it emanates from much deeper roots of the personality.

On top of Christmas list, there is a new Barbie®

His closet is already full ... then, in our eyes, interest is low. But the principle of the Christmas gift is to offer something that pleases . And this doll dressed every year differently (at this moment, Barbie® is offered with her competition horse) is a new heroine on which the little girl projects her future dreams .

Her choice is certainly greatly influenced by advertising hype , which convinces her that this doll is even more wonderful than the others and will bring him happiness.
Whether she believes in Santa Claus or not, we can discuss it with her: "I know, you love the Barbie®, but there's nothing else you would want to play with?" Get 4 toys out of your list that would make you happy. "This makes it possible to redirect his reflection and negotiate .

You can also shop to discover everything that exists. Observing to which rays it is attracted will give us gift ideas. Finally, if it is large enough, one can also temper its enthusiasm by helping it to take a little distance with the influx of advertisements. This can, one day, cause him to make less ... repetitive choices .

Her ideal Christmas gift? A Monster High® doll

But his father finds this doll really hideous . Then we are in parliament. As parents, we can be disconcerted by the tastes of our children. So what ? We are no better placed than they are to know what game is right for them . Too bad to operate a segregation in the name of aesthetic principles ! After all, she will play with her Frankie Stein (the Frankenstein's monster's daughter) or her Draculaura (the daughter of the famous vampire), not her father.

So, is there a strategy to put it down? There is no reason for the mother to offer a Christmas gift when the father really disagrees . Being an accomplice of his daughter and putting her out of the field can have a detrimental influence on the relationship of the trio. The gift must therefore be chosen by mutual agreement .

And if, in spite of the discussion, Monsieur does not take off , his daughter is told: "This doll, you do not want to offer it, you prefer that you buy it with your pocket money. "Sec. But frank .

SOS I do not have the budget for what it requires

He wants a game console (a radio car ordered, a smartphone, a tablet, a mini kart ...), but on the wallet side, it stuck. Even if it is Christmas, there is a compromise . This is the reality of parents, which sometimes goes against the principle of pleasure. And then we can talk to the children .

Then, we seek a solution with the child: for example, he will have only this unique gift , and the whole family, including grandparents, will make common pot . As a result, he realizes that everyone is federating around him for his project.

Or he accepts this gift also account for his birthday and patient a few weeks or months. In such cases, he will also choose a tinker that will be put under the tree . Thus, we accompany him in the small frustration imposed on him and we show him our will to please him .

Thanks to Anne Gatecel, psychologist